I just finished reading Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men by Michael Kimmel.
I HIGHLY recommend it.
Kimmel looks at what it means for boys to come of age today–with a focus on guys between 16 and 26. He discusses the “Guy Code,” which informs much of what most guys do–or at least deal with. He talks about how high school is Boot Camp for Guyland, binge drinking, fraternity hazing, sports, media, porn, hooking up sex, predatory sex, party rape, girls and what ALL guys need to become just guys.
If you have–or will have–a teenage son, nephew, grandson, work with, teach, interact with, can become a significant adult for, know, talk to, or love a boy, you must read this book. If you have–or will have–a daughter, niece, granddaughter, work with, teach, interact with, can become a significant adult for, know, talk to, or love a girl, you must read this book.
You see, John Mayer is right. Interactions between fathers and daughters and mothers and daughters and even between young men and women inform everything about the kind of young adult and real adult they become. This book is a good read that helps provide a lay of the land…of Guyland.